One of my lovely clients asked me this morning what anxiety felt like for me…
This really got me thinking about just how unique anxiety can feel for different people.
I have shared here before about how even with 3 years of university psychology study, that I didn’t recognise my very first panic attack 3 years ago.
I genuinely thought I was dying, right there – right then.
It’s so important to remember that anxiety can manifest in all different ways and shift and change in how it affects you from day to day.
For me, it ranged wildly from:
a mild anxious feeling coursing through my body
a lump in my throat
a knot in my tummy that just wouldn’t budge
shaky jittery hands
nausea & tummy pains
a heavy pressure feeling on my chest like someone was sitting on top of me making it hard to breathe
unable to relax and laugh
unable to concentrate on anything – I would stare at a TV show that I would normally love and not be able to take in any of it
fear of being alone; yet fear of being around others in-case they noticed my angst
agitation (huge one for me)
sometimes I felt like I just needed to cry but couldn’t…
to just sitting staring off into nothing feeling on edge and panicky (what I call ‘shut-down’).
The list goes on…
And that is my point.
Anxiety is a tricky bitch.
It can manifest in so many different ways. And this can make you feel broken, like it is ‘winning’ and that there is something wrong with you.
Trust me, you are not broken. And there is nothing wrong with you.
Anxiety can affect ANYONE, absolutely nobody is immune from it… & that is because it is a natural process that has been with us from the day we were born.
Your brain is actually trying to protect you believe it or not. It’s just sometimes it can get carried away and become hyper-vigilant causing us discomfort.
There are ways that we can regain control over this little part of our brain that wants to protect us, and let it know that we don’t need it to take over quite so much.
These days, I rarely experience any severe anxiety symptoms.
Don’t get me wrong, I still get anxious – but nowadays my anxiety comes and goes without setting up camp. It doesn’t debilitate me or control my life anymore.
I haven’t had a panic/anxiety attack in 2 years.
But when I did, they were intense, and they felt like they would never leave.
I felt trapped in my own body and mind. Unable to break free from the agitation and fear.
…But I wasn’t trapped, and they did leave.
If you experience anxiety that is affecting your life, please remember that you are not alone, and that there is always hope.
You might feel powerless against your anxiety: but that is far from the truth. You have so much more power than you realise! You just need to build your own toolkit and discover that power.
If you want help with managing your anxiety, please contact me to find out how we can work together to restore your calm and regain your quality of life.
I will help you move from helplessness to calm. Because you deserve to be happy and experience a life without debilitating anxiety.
Lastly, and most importantly, I want to tell you not to be afraid to speak up about how you are feeling. Reach out to those around you that you can trust and that love you, because even though you might feel like a burden, you are most definitely not, and support from your friends and family can make all the difference.
Take care 💙