Through my illness, I learnt first-hand just how powerful the mind – body connection is, & just how much torment the mind can cause the body and soul. When I was at my worst, my mind was the cause of a lot of my anxiety & suffering, and the majority of my days were consumed by all the worst-case scenarios and ‘what if’s’ that could fit in my scared little brain!
What I came to realise though, was that my mind was both my enemy and my ally: the cause and the cure.
In order to heal, I had to take responsibility for my thoughts and start taming my fearful, negative thinking. Even though my situation with my heart was genuinely scary, and my fear was probably warranted: the fear-based thoughts were taking over my brain and creating some pretty strong neural pathways that were making me miserable, and definitely not helping my situation.
To change this, I started recognising my fearful thoughts for what they were – thoughts! I started examining my thought processes and realised that most of the time my fears and worries weren’t even real – or within my control (even though they certainly felt real!) I began challenging them using facts and logic, and whenever I caught myself ruminating or worrying I practised this over and over again.
If you feel like worry or anxiety is interfering with your daily life and happiness, then this is a great place to start to try and regain your peace and take control of your well-being.
Negative thoughts can spiral pretty quickly, and they can feel like they happen automatically. But the key is to become aware of your thought patterns and behaviours, and realise that you have the power to choose which ones are serving you, and challenge those that are making you miserable and holding you back.
Write them down, or talk them out with someone you trust. If your problem feels overwhelming and way too big to challenge, then break it down into smaller manageable steps.
Maybe you worry too much about whether you are a ‘good enough’ mum or wife; or spend way too much time and energy comparing yourself to other women who you perceive as ‘having their s**t together’ more than you, (I know I have been guilty of this!) These are perfect examples of thought patterns that are unhelpful and that should be challenged.
I’m willing to bet that you’re actually an amazing mother and wife! 🤩
Sadly, when it comes to ourselves, we tend to focus in on the little negatives and dismiss all the wonderful, positive things that we do and give, (especially when it comes to being a mother). Next time you are having thoughts like this, try choosing to focus on your positives instead – I bet they far outweigh the negatives and debunk your theory about not being ‘good enough’ every time.
And that woman you think has her s**t all together, I’ll let you in on a secret – she most certainly doesn’t! The truth is that you have no way of knowing what is truly going on for her, and what problems or issues she has in her personal life. You are only making assumptions based on your own insecurities and feeding them to yourself as facts; which done often enough will only lead to the formation of false beliefs about yourself.
So, I invite you to take a look at what thought patterns you might have on replay in that beautiful head of yours that aren’t serving you, and preventing you from experiencing more joy in your life.
Because the truth is that you have the power to shift your thinking and create the life that you desire 💖
It just takes practice!
But I promise you that it is worth it, and so are you!
If you would like to learn some ways to manage your anxiety, then head over to my website and download your free copy of my ‘Anxiety Toolkit’ which gives you 10 easy to use tools that you can implement in your daily life to bring out the healthiest & happiest version of you!